Letting yourself “have” energy
I’ve heard several money coaches talk about an important concept:
Some people struggle to just “have” money.
When money comes in the door, these folks immediately spend it.
And then — whether they make only a little money or quite a lot — they will perpetually find themselves with not enough. They will be scrambling, whenever a surprise expense comes in. They will struggle to feel calm and at ease, financially.
In my observation, most of my clients are comfortable “having” money. They keep their savings accounts, 401k’s, and investment portfolio’s thoughtfully managed.
But remember how money and energy operate in some surprisingly similar ways? (Here’s an example.)
On the energy side, many of my clients struggle with “having”…big time.
Here’s what that looks like:
They have a bit of extra energy this week? Amazing! Let’s do two extra workouts, push a little more at work, schedule that extra social event.
As soon as an extra “cent” of energy comes in the door, they immediately deploy it.
On one hand, I get it. Many of them have very energetically expensive lives — they’re often in serious energy debt, just to “cover” their day-to-day energetic expenses.
They’re not getting to “buy” many things they’d like — so yes, as soon as they get some extra cast, of course they’re running to the store.
And it may be that their purchases are healthy and positive. They’re not “spending” their energy on frivolous things — they’re spending it on important things, normal things, things that other people do all the time.
And yet.
And yet, if every dollar you have immediately goes out the door, you will perpetually not have enough. (No matter how much you “make.”)
And yet, if every dollar immediately goes out the door, you will perpetually be scrambling and stressed, whenever a surprise energy “bill” comes in. Which, if you have a job, kids, a house, a pet, a family — it will, quite frequently.
On one hand, wise energetic investments are key. On the other hand, having an “emergency fund,” or an energetic buffer for all the surprise energetic expenses that are part of adulthood, is also essential.
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It is normal to be jealous of other people, who “spent” their energy on something you desire. (This happens with money all the time, of course.)
But learning how to “have” energy, without immediately spending it, might give you exactly what you have dreamed of:
Calm
Peace
Focus
An ability to look forward to the future and accurately plan
So today I will ask: are you comfortable “having” energy?
As always, I’m rooting for you. You’ve got this.
Katie
p.s. I maintain a small, high-end 1:1 life coaching practice. If you’d like to be my next client, learn more or reach out here.
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