Two reminders about other people + decision-making

Two quick reminders about other people + decision-making:

1. Other people may not understand a decision you make, but that doesn’t mean it’s the wrong decision.

It’s simply the nature of life that sometimes you will make a decision that doesn’t make sense to them — or one that seems wrong or misguided.

No one — again, no one — will ever 100% “get you” like you get you. Even your soulmate. Even your best friend. Even your therapist.

(In other words: “This is your game.”)

2. Can you let them be wrong about you?

When other people doubt us, we often assume it means that we’re wrong.

But the Jedi-level Skill is the ability to do the opposite.

A Jedi has the capacity to say to herself: They’re simply mistaken.

And: I’m willing to let them be wrong about me. 

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I got this insight from Brooke Castillo, and it’s quite radical. If you can get comfortable with the idea that people will sometimes be wrong about you — and this can be okay, and you do not have to change their minds — you might just be ready to conquer the world.  

(This is not, of course, to suggest that blind, unjustified confidence is the goal. It’s simply to say: the other person isn’t always right, either — and you get to decide what’s true.)

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As always, I’m rooting for you. You’ve got this.

Katie