I read some remarkably useful advice recently. It’s simple, but I was astonished by how effective it was for me. I thought it might help you, too.
Here it is: “Don’t think too much about your life after dinnertime.”
That advice is from artist and author Austin Kleon. Here’s what else he says about it:
Thinking too much at the end of the day is a recipe for despair. Everything looks better in the light of the morning. Cliché, maybe, but it works.
Kleon is right: it sounds cliché, but it works.
Personally, I’ve noticed that at least 60% of my personal and professional anxiety happens at night.
Implementing this rule doesn’t mean that I’ll never feel worry or self-doubt, but it does mean that I’m less likely to engage with those feelings. Instead of spending an hour mulling it over, wondering if I should make big changes and how I would implement them, I just think, Well, I know that I tend to feel anxious and doubt myself at night. How about we table this question until the morning?
And then in the morning? You guessed it: It’s not that big of a deal. Either the “problem” isn’t truly a problem, or it can be addressed in do-able, non-stressful ways.