My coaching is “life coaching” through the lens of eating + bodies.
That means that yes, we’ll talk about your eating and body image, and I'll give you really actionable strategies to pay more attention to your hunger, fullness, and cravings. But mostly, we’ll talk about you and your life and how you experience the world. Eating issues are generally a “symptom” of much deeper things. And discovering what those “deeper things” are…well, that can be really tricky to do on our own.
My coaching style is gentle, friendly, and supportive. I know that this stuff can be so hard, and I want to make it easier and more doable, no matter what you’re coming in with. I find individual coaching to be a really powerful form of work, because we can really “go deep” on issues.
Some things you should know about coaching:
1. This work is about helping you feel more confident, more beautiful, healthier, more comfortable in your body, and more sane around food.
You’ll be learning how to eat food you like, feel good in your body, and discover the deeper issues that are unconsciously affecting your eating (because yep, I bet you have some).
2. This work isn’t about weight loss.
You may lose weight, you may not. Some people’s weight won’t change at all, and some people might gain a couple of pounds. It will depend on your current relationship with food (e.g., how often you are listening to your hunger signals, bingeing, etc.) and a lot of other factors (your past dieting history, your biology, age, etc.).
I know that may be hard to read if you are feeling frustrated with your weight, but it’s important for me to say it, because I want you to know that I am being real with you.
Honestly, most diets that say you can “lose 8 pounds this month” (or whatever) are really lying to you, because the data shows that in the long term, most dieters gain back the weight they lost and then some.
Of course, you won’t have to give up on your dreams of being prettier, more confident, more content, healthier, or more comfortable in your body. We just won’t pretend that weight loss, per se, will help you get there.
3. You don’t have to be wildly, out-of-control bingeing every day for this work to be useful.
I’ve had people say to me, Oh, I was bingeing a lot for a while, but now I’m not that bad, so I don’t know if I need a coach.
Here’s the thing: even if you are just feeling a little bit “not quite right” about your eating, this work can be powerful. Because all of us can benefit from pulling back the rug and looking at all of those dust bunnies underneath. So don’t worry that your eating “isn’t bad enough.” If you feel a calling toward this type of work, you’d be welcome.
4. This work can go deep and be very intense, depending on the person.
By “deep and intense,” I mean that it can bring up a lot of feelings, thoughts, and sensations that we didn’t even know we had — and that we might have been trying, on some level, to avoid.
Of course, it’s not super intense for everyone. Some people just need help being more aware of their hunger and fullness, for example, and then they’re good to go.
But for other people…coaching can bring up a lot. Since it’s hard for me to know who will have an intense experience, it’s good for me to say upfront: this isn’t for the faint of heart. Coaching is probably only a good fit if you are willing to really look at your entire life.
4. You will have to do some work.
It won’t be a crazy commitment, but you’ll need to be willing to spend 15-30 minutes a day trying out some new practices, journaling, or readings. Some weeks it might be less.
If you don’t put in at least some time between sessions, you won’t notice much of a change. That’s just how this works, and is one of the things that can make coaching different from many forms of therapy.
If that sounds intriguing to you, I’d love to chat with you to see if it would be a good fit -- please fill out the form below!.
- 8-session initial commitment, to get the ball rolling
- At the beginning, we'll complete a diagnostic process so I can better understand what you're struggling with. Together we'll identify goals that we'll work towards in our time together.
- 45-minute weekly sessions over Skype or Google Hangout
- Between sessions, you'll complete "homework," which could include reading books, self-reflection exercises, activities to help you put into action what we talk about -- this work is incredibly powerful because it helps you continue developing between sessions
What it's like to work with me:
"[Before working with Katie], I was very frustrated about my habits and my perceived lack of control of the way I ate, which was making me somewhat depressed. I also felt a sense of helplessness around food.
Since working with Katie, I came to realize how much I previously depended on food for non-nutritional nourishment (to deal with stress, anxiety, loneliness, boredom, etc). I feel relieved, liberated...I can now dedicate the mental energy I used to use obsessing over food to other things in my life that are nourishing. I also feel much more connected to my body, my thoughts, and my emotions.
If you are struggling with your relationship with food, think you might be struggling with your relationship with food, or need a safe space to talk through this--just do it! Honestly, you'll come out the other side a more connected, better person, which impacts all areas of your life."
-- Alicia, New York
"I've been struggling with body image and food-related issues for most of my life. Working with therapists and nutritionists helped, but I always felt like there was something missing. I realized while working with Katie what that missing piece was: I didn't feel that they truly got what I was trying to tell them. With Katie, I feel absolutely comfortable talking about the problems I've faced in the past, because she talks so candidly about how she has battled with very similar issues herself. When we talk, I feel like she really gets what I'm trying to say. It's easy to discuss the issues we bring up in our sessions without worrying about feeling judged.
I'm really happy with the work we've done so far. Katie has given me some simple but effective tools that help me deal with the anxiety I feel around deciding what and when to eat. She has also been very warm and encouraging in helping me to be gentler with and less critical of myself. Instead of telling me what I should eat, Katie has encouraged me to listen to my own body, which I've found so much more helpful and empowering."
-- N., New York City
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"Since I was very young, I struggled with my weight and for as long as I can recall, I have memories of my family and friends telling me all I needed was a little “willpower”. From working with Katie, I learned to stop seeing the night I ate a whole plate of pasta as a fallback and the day I ate nothing but half a peanut butter and jelly as an accomplishment. By giving me tools to listen to my body, to be more mindful of my emotional responses, to forgive myself, and let go of my actions around food, Katie’s mentorship has empowered me to redefine my health and use my body and my vulnerabilities as tool for cultivation not destruction."
- Kelsey Megan Ellison, Chicago
"Eating when you're hungry? Sounds almost too simple. I never realized in 39 years that I am not hungry first thing in the AM. I simply followed my patterns and ate 'when I was supposed to.' I have been researching/dealing/searching/learning/discovering about my food issues for almost 20 years. I was pleasantly surprised to learn some very NEW and very profound things with Katie. Thank You!!!"
-- Cory, Annapolis