I got an email from a new client recently, after our first session, thanking me for our first session and telling me how deeply the things we talked about had affected her:
I wasn't expecting yesterday's session to be as helpful as it was. I still have a lot of fear around eating what I want …but yesterday's talk really helped to convince me that it was okay to actually trust my body, or at least to try.
So... thanks!! I think you're doing great and I'm so happy to be working with you.
There is nothing that means more to me than knowing that I've helped someone with these issues. I also know that it’s hard to know even what to expect when working with someone like me, so I wanted to take a chance, this week, to let you know a bit more about it:
1. Our work is customized to you.
Before we start working together, we’ll chat about your specific situation — what’s going well and what you’re struggling with — and you’ll fill out a detailed eating history survey. I’ll spend some time really thinking about your challenges, and then we’ll talk about how I think I can be helpful and what changes you can expect from our time together.
2. Our work is actionable — you’ll always have new things to think about or try
In every session, we’ll talk about your past week. Did you find it easy to eat only when you were hungry? Or did you find yourself over-eating a lot because you were stressed out at work? We’ll celebrate or troubleshoot together, and make sure you have some strategies to deal with challenges in the future.
Based on what you're dealing with, we’ll do an exercise together — anything from a body meditation to help you build awareness of hunger and fullness, to an exploration of the psychological reasons behind your eating — and you’ll receive 2-3 practices to try over the course of the next week. This means that you keep growing and learning in between our sessions.
3. Our work can be started anytime, especially if your life is overwhelming
A client recently said to me, “Oh, I feel so bad that we’re working together now because my life is so stressful!” I told her that this is actually the perfect time to work together. Your eating and your life are inextricably intertwined, and you need an approach to food that works especially during stressful times.
4. Our work is fun
My work isn’t just about the food you put in your mouth. Your eating is a mirror of how you’re living, and we can’t improve your relationship with food without improving your relationship with your life.
For some people, that means a lot more brownies. For others, it means a lot more time to read, to nap, to get back to dancing or calligraphy or other favorite and ignored hobbies. And some people realize that they need to add new sweetness to their lives – to learn to ride a bike or go salsa dancing for the first time or ask someone out on a date. Whatever it is, expect more pleasure.
5. Our work is also hard, but in a different way than you expect
I wouldn’t be honest if I didn’t tell you that it’s hard. It definitely is. But it’s not hard in the way that a diet is hard, and it doesn’t require willpower.
What is required is a willingness and a curiosity to look closely at your life, your thoughts, and your behaviors, and to stop going through life on autopilot. Being truly aware of yourself can be painful — most of us who struggle with food have things, big or small, that we’d rather not face.
So yes, it’s hard and scary and sometimes painful. But that’s why I’m here: to support you, to show you the way, and to make sure that there is enough pleasure to make you feel balanced.
I can promise you that it will be worth it. My work is about helping you eat whatever you want without obsessing, stop worrying about your weight, and start leading the life you’ve always wanted to lead. It is definitely worth it.
If you have any other questions about what it’s like to work with me, schedule a free call with me and we can discuss whether it might be a good fit. Talking with people who are struggling with these issues is one of my greatest passions, so I’d love to chat with you.
Whatever you decide, I hope you have a great week, and that you find the strength to be authentic and loving, in your eating and beyond.