The top four signs that you should ask for help

In my Deep Dive sessions this week (I still have 5 free ones left – email me to claim one!), I’ve been encountering the same big question:

How do I know if I really need help?

Honestly, there are many signs, and if you feel that you need help, I would always encourage you to go for it. Everyone deserves to feel more juicy, joyful, and authentic about their eating.

But if you’re still wondering whether you’d benefit from some help, I wanted to share with you four signs that might mean you could use some help:

1. You often find yourself jealous of those “naturally skinny” people who never obsess about food.

You know the ones I’m talking about, right?

The ones who seem to subsist only on Doritos and donuts, but still look smoking hot in a bikini?

Or, even worse, those ones who seem to make healthy choices effortlessly, without feeling furious and deprived because they are going with the salad rather than the baby back ribs?

And look, I’ve been jealous of them, too.

The truth is it doesn’t come naturally to most of us.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t cultivate their ease, the way they enjoy food without obsessing about it, the way they don’t have to worry about gaining weight.

You might just need some help.

 

2. You feel totally overwhelmed with thoughts and information when you make decisions around food.

From magazines to health books to friends to loved ones to random people you meet at weddings who tell you that giving up gluten really changed their lives, we hear so much information every day about food and eating that it can be completely overwhelming.

Is it good to let myself get hungry? Or should I eat many small meals so I’m never hungry?

Should I avoid fat? Or indulge? What about meat, milk, eggs, and sugar?

The last thing you need is one more person telling you what to do.

But you might benefit from figuring out how to get in touch with your own, authentic self, so you stop having to sort through all of the noise in your brain just to figure out what to friggin’ eat for lunch.

And if you’re not sure how to start to do that, there’s no shame in asking for help.

 

3. You feel hopeless, like you’ll be fat/bingeing/obsessing/frustrated forever.

No.

You really, really don’t have to be like this forever.

But you do have to be willing to look honestly at yourself and your eating. And you do have to be willing to ask for help.

I wish I could sit in a room with you, put my arms on your shoulders and tell you this, because I think it’s so important. But I hope these words will give you the support to do what’s right for you.

 

4. You think just need some more friggin’ willpower.

 Sure, I can’t 100% know what you need.

But it is my deeply held belief that most problems with food aren’t due to a lack of willpower. There is usually a very, very good reason why you’re eating the way you’re eating, and until you find out what it is and deal with it directly, you’re going to keep bingeing/overeating/eating stacks and stacks of pancakes or whatever it is that’s driving you crazy.

And honestly, it can be hard to figure out what’s going on and what’s driving you to feel totally out-of-control and willpower-less around food. Help can be extremely useful in those circumstances.

If you need help, there are lots of options for you.

You can keep reading this blog.

You can read some great books out there, like Geneen Roth’s Breaking Free from Emotional Eating.

You can work with me one-on-one. I even have 5 spots still open for totally free 45-minute discovery sessions – so if you’re on the fence about whether you even have a problem that requires “help,” you have nothing to lose. Shoot me an email!

Whatever you decide, know that my heart is with you, and I’m rooting for you.

 

As a final note, if you suspect that you may have a much more serious “craziness” around food, an eating disorder, please, please talk to your doctor or contact the National Eating Disorder Hotline at 1-800-931-2237.